Hi, I’m Michael.
I spend a lot of my time thinking about, well, time. When you stop to think about it, it can be pretty depressing. It only moves in one direction. We only get one shot at it. What I learn today can only be applied tomorrow, never yesterday. The stakes are pretty high.
I view the work I do, the work of couples therapy, as a way of giving you more quality time. People typically think of couples therapy as a way to learn to communicate more clearly, to fight more fairly, or if you’re really enlightened, as a way to manage emotions in a healthier way. And it is all of those things. But in that telling, I think we lose some important part of the soul of what therapy was meant to be. It was never meant to be a way to optimize life to its fullest potential. It was meant to show us how to discover who we are. How to live well. How, with the little time we have, to find some measure of peace and joy.
Answering those questions, for myself and for my couples, is how I view therapy. Because I believe the universe doesn’t care about us. It doesn’t care what you do, how successful you are, how strong or fast, how tall or pretty or handsome. It just keeps going. Which is why relationships inhabit such an important place in our lives. Maybe the universe doesn’t care about me. But if I matter to my partner, and I can feel myself mattering, deep into my bones, then it’s as if the universe is smiling upon me. And perhaps even more profound is watching my partner realize, deep into their bones, how much they matter to me. Watching them find the courage to be open to me, and myself find the courage to nurture and reward that openness, is an actual miracle.
This is why I love couples therapy. When I do my job well, you and your partner aren’t just learning to communicate more clearly. You’re learning to rely on one another. To reach out for one another in vulnerability and hope. To journey together to the darkest parts of your being, and in that place, be a light to one another. This is what therapy was meant to be, and just maybe, what we can make it again.
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Some of my qualifications include:
- Master of Arts in Counseling
- Licensed Professional Counselor, License # C5140
- Completed Externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (4 day intensive training)
- Completed Core Skills in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (6 weekend trainings over 6 months)
- Completed over 40 hours of supervised practice in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
- Certified Clinical Trauma Professional with the International Association of Trauma Professionals
If you think we’d be a good fit for counseling, please contact me today for an appointment.
